I attended and organized many programs this year. LMK if you would like to discuss!
- Sexual Development and Attitudes of African American Women
- Sex and Sexuality in the Muslim Community
- More than Medicine: Alternative Treatments for ADHD
- Sex Therapy with Religiously Conservative Clients
- Inter-generational Transmission of Trauma on Adult Sexual Intimacy
- Couples After Pregnancy: Intimacy & Sexuality
- Racial Literacy: Racial Stress in Therapeutic Relationships
I also organized events through the LGBT Affirmative Therapists Guild. I facilitated the event & discussion and other professionals presented on the following topics:
- Hormone Therapy with Transgender Clients (medical provider panel)
- Weight Stigma
- HIV+: What Therapists Need to Know
- Lesbian-Affirming Client Care
- Reflections from LGBTQ Community Members
Here are some workshops I attended since my last update:
- Pros/cons of forgiveness after trauma
- treatment planning
- suicide assessment
- treating dissociation with EMDR (with Dolores Mosquera)
- restoring sexual development via body-based therapies (with Dr. Nan Wise)
- practicing during Covid-19: ethical & risk management
- Black & White therapeutic dyads (with Dr. Laurie Paul)
- developmental impact of shame
- negotiating racial stress within a therapeutic relationship (with Dr. Howard C. Stevenson)
- roots of self-sabotage
- religious trauma: negative effects of purity culture
- gender expansive & Non-Binary clients
- sexual taboos within the Black community (with Christina Wright, MPH)
- intimacy & sexuality after pregnancy (with Dr. Stephanie Buehler)
I also started a new EMDR Certification process through EMDR-specific supervision
This year I am one of Kansas City’s LGBT Affirmative Therapist Guild leaders. I am helping coordinate continuing education events for local therapists to develop their competencies with sexual and gender minority populations.
I’ve been reading Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake up your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence. The 9 elements are: Voice, Release, Emotion, Body, Desire, Permission, Play, Home, and Fire. Amy Jo Goddard offers worksheets and exercises in each chapter to help individual women explore their sexual stories while identifying any stuck-ness, growth edges, preferred experiences, and experiments. I may refer to some of Goddard’s activities and resources as tools to bolster therapy.
I participated in a two-day couple’s workshop in Tantric Sexuality lead by Dr. Sally Valentine. Tantra is a special practice due to it’s concurrent engagement of the mind, body, emotions, and spirit. Tantra emphasizes a person’s internal body consciousness and self-love as a foundation for connection with a loved one. This foundation & specific practices facilitate a neural synchronicity between lovers with heightened non-verbal communication. I learned at least 12 non-verbal practices and 6 verbal practices for increased relational intimacy. I’d be happy to share these techniques with you!
I attended a 3-day workshop titled “Decentering the Norm: Social Justice Transformations in Sex Therapy, Counseling, and Sex Education.” Some highlights included:
- sex tools that enhance or enable pleasure for people with disabilities
- connecting pleasure with personal power and agency (rather than, for example workaholism)
- a discussion of “sanism” and introduction to Mad Studies
- how queer theory intersects and modifies attachment theory
I attended a sexual health annual conference again this year & added these trainings to my resume:
- Latin@ Bisexuality at the Intersections of the Erotic, the Exotic, and the Dangers of Colorblind Racism
- Tantric Meditation
- Sex on Film: A Research-Education-Filmaking Collaboration
- Embracing Your Discomfort: Cultivating Mindfulness in Sexual Health and Social Justice
- Ourselves as Context: the Ethics of Personal Disclosure in Therapy and in Educational Settings
- Bedpost Confessions [[–my FAVORITE experience. It was like the Vagina Monologues & Moth Story Hour for all genders and orientations with audience participation!]]
- Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape
- Pushing Boundaries: Teaching Diverse and “Taboo” Sexuality in Higher Education Settings
- Sexualizing Cancer
- Complexity of Couples, Sexual Desire, and Clinician Values
- Sexual Healing Heals More than Sex: an Embodied Relational Approach to Transformative Intimacy
- Narrative Conversations: Helping Clients Reconstruct Taboo
- Finding Pleasure and Intimacy When Sex is (Undesirably) Painful: Working Clinically with Pelvic Pain Diagnoses
- Interracial Open Relationships: How to Manage Jealousy and Promote Racial Sensitivity
I just completed two additional trainings:
- Sex Under the Influence: Substance Abuse and Sexuality
- Ethical Code for certified sexuality therapists
I appreciated the substance abuse & sexuality training because oftentimes these issues are artificially segregated. For example, many substance abuse treatment programs avoid inquiry and topics related to sexual shame, sexual abuse, body image, and sexual orientation dilemmas that contribute to people’s addictive patterns.
The ethics training was mostly review–but important stuff. Anyone can view the Ethical Code. I also adhere to the American Counseling Association ethical code. If you have any questions about either of these topics, feel free to contact me.
Positive sexual experience can be a great way to feel gratitude for one’s own body. Unfortunately, many people’s negative body image interferes with their ability to be truly present with themselves and inhibits their pleasure. Dr. Emily Nagoski identifies some concrete practices to build self-love at the end of her TED Talk: Confidence and Joy are the Keys to a Great Sex Life. Over the last couple weeks, I have been reading her book Come as You Are.
I returned from another week of sex education. I took courses titled the Exceptional Sex Therapist (3 days); Resolving Trauma Through Somatic Experiencing, and Sexuality & Culture. Surprisingly, my favorite course was Introduction to Tantra. Before this course I thought Tanta was having sex for 24 hours at a time, which seemed kind of like a waste of time, honestly. I learned, instead, that tantra is a way of experiencing the eroticism in everyday life, sometimes without any specifically sexual encounters. Tantra is welcoming inter-connection while maintaining a primary connection with oneself. Eroticism bigger than sex—sensory and intellectual pleasure of many types and more of an attitude than particular events. Since March 17th, I keep going back to the 8 Principles of Tantra so I will briefly describe them here.
- Everything is an Experiment: Beginners mind, openness to experience, observation, willingness to gather data
- As Within, so Without: what happens in the world affects our individual experience; we need to prioritize and reset our bodies; we can offer our balance to the world
- Tapas and Spanda: in a concrete visual form, these are the eyes in the yin and yang that reflect the healthy healthy “masculine” energy within “feminine” energy and the healthy “feminine” energy within “masculine” energy. The tapas is about patient, non-attached willpower and the spanda is about a sense of wonderment, thrill, and joy.
- Inner Marriage: the healthy interconnection of dual, or contrasting energies within oneself. A well-integrated person is able to be consistently present in the world.
- Multiple Realms of Consciousness: everyday waking consciousness, mythical consciousness (symbols, projections), magical consciousness (big energy, transformation), and integral consciousness (all levels of consciousness simultaneous)
- Ascending and Descending Currents: chakras
- Transformational Healing Power of Pleasure: this may be my favorite principle–that pleasure can heal! As a trauma therapist and human being, I know that people can get stuck in trauma, vigilance, and guardedness. True pleasure is the opposite! True pleasure can restore our bodies and clear our minds. While sometimes pleasure can invite trauma processing (for example, someone can remember a painful event while laying on the beach) it also provides a welcome, stabilizing context for healing. It’s important to differentiate impulse and addictions from pleasure.
- Love: love, like pleasure, heals. It also connects people and connects humans to their surroundings.