I am not accepting new clients at this time. My availability for new clients starts August 12. If you want to schedule an appointment in advance, feel free to contact me.
I’ve been enjoying Brene Brown’s new book Dare to Lead. 2019 is my year of intentional leadership; I was attracted to the title. The resource is complete with an online workbook to self-assess my skills. Honestly, I have often resisted and dismissed the idea of being a leader because I have seen too many poor examples. I associated the concept of “leadership” with inept systems and/or bad faith actors. I previously held this worldview so close I failed to fully see and appreciate many positive examples of leadership in my life. To be clear, I still see leadership crises in SOME situations. But now, I’m willing to make leadership contributions and I’m more prepared with the tools in Dare to Lead.
This Spring, I am supervising 4 graduate counseling students in their Practicum field experience. Basically, I’ll be helping new counselors evaluate their work and design treatment plans. To prepare, I am taking two courses:
- “Clinical Supervision: Mastering the 4 Stages of Development” with Robert Taibbi, LCSW
- “Using Deliberate Practice to Enhance Clinical Skill Development” with Tony Rousmaniere, PsyD
I’m looking forward to this collaboration with other clinicians. It’s always good to continuously re-evaluate my own skills and assumptions. I also decided that 2019 is my year of intentional leadership.
In January and February, I am getting EMDR training. EMDR is a tool for increased resolution of trauma, including sexual trauma, and sleep disturbance. Here is a 2-minute video that briefly outlines SOME of the mechanics involved in EMDR treatment.
This year I am one of Kansas City’s LGBT Affirmative Therapist Guild leaders. I am helping coordinate continuing education events for local therapists to develop their competencies with sexual and gender minority populations.
- Dissatisfaction and hopelessness in the relationship.
- A value of novelty and passion in romantic/sexual relationships.
- A sense of deserving sexual satisfaction and intimate connections.
- The partner and self are viewed as fixed characters.
- Lack of curiosity for the partner as a subject.
- An experience of desire and passion overriding and overtaking one’s judgment.
- The affair is not recognized as an affair until after it begins.
- Divorce or opening up the relationship are not considered options for resolving the issues.
I’ve been reading Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake up your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence. The 9 elements are: Voice, Release, Emotion, Body, Desire, Permission, Play, Home, and Fire. Amy Jo Goddard offers worksheets and exercises in each chapter to help individual women explore their sexual stories while identifying any stuck-ness, growth edges, preferred experiences, and experiments. I may refer to some of Goddard’s activities and resources as tools to bolster therapy.
I participated in a two-day couple’s workshop in Tantric Sexuality lead by Dr. Sally Valentine. Tantra is a special practice due to it’s concurrent engagement of the mind, body, emotions, and spirit. Tantra emphasizes a person’s internal body consciousness and self-love as a foundation for connection with a loved one. This foundation & specific practices facilitate a neural synchronicity between lovers with heightened non-verbal communication. I learned at least 12 non-verbal practices and 6 verbal practices for increased relational intimacy. I’d be happy to share these techniques with you!
I attended a 3-day workshop titled “Decentering the Norm: Social Justice Transformations in Sex Therapy, Counseling, and Sex Education.” Some highlights included:
- sex tools that enhance or enable pleasure for people with disabilities
- connecting pleasure with personal power and agency (rather than, for example workaholism)
- a discussion of “sanism” and introduction to Mad Studies
- how queer theory intersects and modifies attachment theory
I attended a sexual health annual conference again this year & added these trainings to my resume:
- Latin@ Bisexuality at the Intersections of the Erotic, the Exotic, and the Dangers of Colorblind Racism
- Tantric Meditation
- Sex on Film: A Research-Education-Filmaking Collaboration
- Embracing Your Discomfort: Cultivating Mindfulness in Sexual Health and Social Justice
- Ourselves as Context: the Ethics of Personal Disclosure in Therapy and in Educational Settings
- Bedpost Confessions [[–my FAVORITE experience. It was like the Vagina Monologues & Moth Story Hour for all genders and orientations with audience participation!]]
- Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape
- Pushing Boundaries: Teaching Diverse and “Taboo” Sexuality in Higher Education Settings
- Sexualizing Cancer
- Complexity of Couples, Sexual Desire, and Clinician Values
- Sexual Healing Heals More than Sex: an Embodied Relational Approach to Transformative Intimacy
- Narrative Conversations: Helping Clients Reconstruct Taboo
- Finding Pleasure and Intimacy When Sex is (Undesirably) Painful: Working Clinically with Pelvic Pain Diagnoses
- Interracial Open Relationships: How to Manage Jealousy and Promote Racial Sensitivity