Factors in an Affair

A big thank you to Nicolle Zapien for pinpointing these 8 factors in infidelity. I find that they are very accurate.

  1. Dissatisfaction and hopelessness in the relationship.
  2. A value of novelty and passion in romantic/sexual relationships.
  3. A sense of deserving sexual satisfaction and intimate connections.
  4. The partner and self are viewed as fixed characters.
  5. Lack of curiosity for the partner as a subject.
  6. An experience of desire and passion overriding and overtaking one’s judgment.
  7. The affair is not recognized as an affair until after it begins.
  8. Divorce or opening up the relationship are not considered options for resolving the issues.