I am NOT currently accepting new clients at this time. I anticipate new client openings in June!
I’ve been enjoying Brene Brown’s new book Dare to Lead. 2019 is my year of intentional leadership; I was attracted to the title. The resource is complete with an online workbook to self-assess my skills. Honestly, I have often resisted and dismissed the idea of being a leader because I have seen too many poor examples. I associated the concept of “leadership” with inept systems and/or bad faith actors. I previously held this worldview so close I failed to fully see and appreciate many positive examples of leadership in my life. To be clear, I still see leadership crises in SOME situations. But now, I’m willing to make leadership contributions and I’m more prepared with the tools in Dare to Lead.
This Spring, I am supervising 4 graduate counseling students in their Practicum field experience. Basically, I’ll be helping new counselors evaluate their work and design treatment plans. To prepare, I am taking two courses:
- “Clinical Supervision: Mastering the 4 Stages of Development” with Robert Taibbi, LCSW
- “Using Deliberate Practice to Enhance Clinical Skill Development” with Tony Rousmaniere, PsyD
I’m looking forward to this collaboration with other clinicians. It’s always good to continuously re-evaluate my own skills and assumptions. I also decided that 2019 is my year of intentional leadership.
In January and February, I am getting EMDR training. EMDR is a tool for increased resolution of trauma, including sexual trauma, and sleep disturbance. Here is a 2-minute video that briefly outlines SOME of the mechanics involved in EMDR treatment.
This year I am one of Kansas City’s LGBT Affirmative Therapist Guild leaders. I am helping coordinate continuing education events for local therapists to develop their competencies with sexual and gender minority populations.
- Dissatisfaction and hopelessness in the relationship.
- A value of novelty and passion in romantic/sexual relationships.
- A sense of deserving sexual satisfaction and intimate connections.
- The partner and self are viewed as fixed characters.
- Lack of curiosity for the partner as a subject.
- An experience of desire and passion overriding and overtaking one’s judgment.
- The affair is not recognized as an affair until after it begins.
- Divorce or opening up the relationship are not considered options for resolving the issues.
I’ve been reading Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake up your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence. The 9 elements are: Voice, Release, Emotion, Body, Desire, Permission, Play, Home, and Fire. Amy Jo Goddard offers worksheets and exercises in each chapter to help individual women explore their sexual stories while identifying any stuck-ness, growth edges, preferred experiences, and experiments. I may refer to some of Goddard’s activities and resources as tools to bolster therapy.
I participated in a two-day couple’s workshop in Tantric Sexuality lead by Dr. Sally Valentine. Tantra is a special practice due to it’s concurrent engagement of the mind, body, emotions, and spirit. Tantra emphasizes a person’s internal body consciousness and self-love as a foundation for connection with a loved one. This foundation & specific practices facilitate a neural synchronicity between lovers with heightened non-verbal communication. I learned at least 12 non-verbal practices and 6 verbal practices for increased relational intimacy. I’d be happy to share these techniques with you!
I attended a 3-day workshop titled “Decentering the Norm: Social Justice Transformations in Sex Therapy, Counseling, and Sex Education.” Some highlights included:
- sex tools that enhance or enable pleasure for people with disabilities
- connecting pleasure with personal power and agency (rather than, for example workaholism)
- a discussion of “sanism” and introduction to Mad Studies
- how queer theory intersects and modifies attachment theory
I attended a sexual health annual conference again this year & added these trainings to my resume:
- Latin@ Bisexuality at the Intersections of the Erotic, the Exotic, and the Dangers of Colorblind Racism
- Tantric Meditation
- Sex on Film: A Research-Education-Filmaking Collaboration
- Embracing Your Discomfort: Cultivating Mindfulness in Sexual Health and Social Justice
- Ourselves as Context: the Ethics of Personal Disclosure in Therapy and in Educational Settings
- Bedpost Confessions [[–my FAVORITE experience. It was like the Vagina Monologues & Moth Story Hour for all genders and orientations with audience participation!]]
- Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape
- Pushing Boundaries: Teaching Diverse and “Taboo” Sexuality in Higher Education Settings
- Sexualizing Cancer
- Complexity of Couples, Sexual Desire, and Clinician Values
- Sexual Healing Heals More than Sex: an Embodied Relational Approach to Transformative Intimacy
- Narrative Conversations: Helping Clients Reconstruct Taboo
- Finding Pleasure and Intimacy When Sex is (Undesirably) Painful: Working Clinically with Pelvic Pain Diagnoses
- Interracial Open Relationships: How to Manage Jealousy and Promote Racial Sensitivity